She Say You So Pretty...

I needed to laugh today.  I love this comedienne, she's hilarious!  This nail salon routine is funny...cuz it's true.


Anjelah Johnson (stand up) Nail Salon

RiceFisherman | MySpace Video

Mom Strength

This is a hard post for me to write tonight. And I'm writing for purely selfish reasons, which is the last reason I should be writing, given the subject of this post and the example that has been set for me today. Selfishness has no place in this drama I have watched play out over the last few days. And yet, here I am, with my high maintenance ways, selfishly working through my issues at the expense of my readers. Sorry...the grief is too much to bear alone.

Having said that, the grief and sadness I feel today is NOTHING compared to the loss and suffering my friends have had to endure the last few days as they deal with the tragic loss of their 2 year old son. What makes the loss even more unbearable is that the little boy's caretaker was the one who unknowingly took his life when she backed over him in the driveway. In an instant, 2 families who are the best of friends have been changed forever and a little bundle of energy and mischief is gone.

As I sat at the church waiting for the funeral to begin, I was immediately struck by the fact that the large chapel was full to capacity. That was not surprising. My friends are amazing people who are so easy to love. And the town where they live - where I used to live - is a kind and giving community, full of people who truly care about one another and who delight in serving and supporting their neighbors. I miss my old town.

The service was full of spiritual moments and incredible music that sounded as if it had been flown in on the wings of angels. The people who were there to support this dear family, including those of us in the congregation, offered our hearts and our voices, doing our utmost to usher in a feeling of love, reverence and faith though melody and lyrics that brought even the strongest man there to his knees.

As I struggled to maintain even a modicum of composure, thoughts raced through my head at a breakneck pace. How does a person even begin to deal with the loss of a child? How does the babysitter ever recover from the guilt she must be feeling? How is my friend still standing and talking? Why has she not fallen to the ground by now in a broken, sobbing heap?

I stopped to think about that last question for quite awhile. The question arose when I watched my friends get up to speak about their son. The father did such a great job of supporting his sweet wife. He was trying to be strong for her, for his other children. He spoke with great tenderness, then broke down for just a moment.  As he regained his composure, he had no more words, so he turned to his wife - my friend.  She stood there in front of a few hundred people with quivering lips and swollen eyes. That's when I wondered if she was going to collapse under the weight of the situation. I watched with tears streaming down my own face as she put her hand out on the podium to steady herself. Two or three times she opened her mouth to speak but no words came out, only choked back sobs. She hung her head for a few moments and her shoulders shook visibly as her body tried hard to fight back the grief. We all felt her pain and sat helplessly, offering our heartfelt love and support through silent prayer.

After a few moments, she stood up straight, wiped her tears, took a deep breath and stepped up to the microphone. She had a renewed strength about her. It was her Mom Strength kicking in. It's that strength that magically appears when we are beyond exhausted and longing for peace and sleep, but we keep going because a sick child needs us. It's the kind of strength that allows you to sit back and watch your child make mistakes, even when you know it will cause them great pain. It's the same strength that God gives you to keep having babies, even when the pain is so unbearable that you think it might kill you. Her Mom Strength was getting her through this. And with everything she had, she began to offer up her thoughts, her memories, her feelings, her testimony and her thanks to God for the precious gift of motherhood that she had been given. She recognized that it had been their privilege to bring that sweet little child into their home and thanked Heavenly Father for blessing them with the opportunity to share in their son's short life here on earth.

And then, this incredible friend of mine, this broken, hurting human being, did the most humbling thing I have ever witnessed. She looked to the babysitter, who by some miracle had managed to drag herself to what I can only imagine must have been the second most torutuous event of her life (the first being the horrible drive backward out of my friend's driveway), and thanked her for taking such good care of their son while my friend went to work each day. She offered her love and condolences to the caretaker, knowing that she too must be consumed with grief and overwrought with sadness. My friend did the most unselfish thing a person can do...she reached out and offered a hand of forgiveness to someone that others might have cast off as unlovable because of a life-ending mistake. There was no hate, no harsh words, no blame. Only solace. My dear, sweet, incredibly strong friend rose to the occasion and offered the ultimate sacrifice and example of Christ-like love. She laid her anger at the alter so that everyone could heal and move on.   

You would think I would leave there trying to live up to my friend's example of strength. And yet, here I sit, in my own selfishness tonight, sobbing like a baby. I lost nothing because of this tragedy. In fact, it opened my eyes and I gained a much better perpective of what matters and what doesn't. But I still sit here with giant tears pouring out of my face...horrified at the thought of having to go through something so traumatic with one of my own children; racked with guilt that I did not make a bigger effort to spend more time with my dear friends since moving from that little town; overwhelmed with homesickness and a desire to move back to the only place that ever felt like home; heartbroken for a friend who suffers so greatly and for whom I can do nothing to ease her pain; and finally, feeling incredibly moved by my friend's selfless actions.  All of which keep the tears flowing.  I guess this is how I process.  I write and I ramble and I cry. 

So thanks, dear readers and friends, for indulging my need to sob on your shoulders. I hope I cry enough tonight to wash the selfishness and grief away so I can be a source of support for my friend and her family. She gave me a great gift today when she offered up her example of courage, faith and selflessness. I would like to return her the favor.

Staples Gift Card Winner

Here's the winner of the Stapels Gift Card, as chosen by Random.org!!

 Congratulations Stacy!  Keep your eyes on the mailbox for your giftcard delivery!! 

It's Back to School Time! Staples Gift Card Giveaway

The boys started school last week.  They were not too happy about it.  They were even less happy that I would embarrass them by taking a picture in front of their friends at school, as evidenced by this photo.  It was a rough start for all of us, to be sure. 

So we are 6 days into the new school year and things have smoothed out immensely.  We are all settling back into the much needed routine and school life seems tolerable - for the moment.  I have to thank Staples and MomSelect for helping out with the Back to School transition.  LOOK what the Fed-X Guy dropped off yesterday!!  The boys were so excited to have some cool new school supplies that they kind of forgot that they were mad about the short summer! 

Staples has a lot of new items this year, including some "green" gear that kids will love, like pencil sharpeners and rulers made out of recycled materials.  It'll be really handy for the boys to have an example right in their desks when the class discussion about how kids can help the environment takes place! 

I love the organizer that came with the notebooks and comp books and am keeping that for myself so I can actually make an attempt at being organized and efficient this year!  So thanks for that, Staples.  My kids and their teachers and their coaches and my friends and doctors and anyone else who watches me flounder in a sea of forgotten information will appreciate the organizer too.

The DoSomething.org notebooks and comp books have cool designs and teens can check out the website and learn about various social issues.  Notice the word "teens" used there...Staples has definitely geared this DoSomething.org campaign and these products toward older teenagers.  (Warning:  Honest Mom Review Alert!!) While I appreciate the intent and the effort to educate kids about service and charity, as a parent I am pretty careful about steering my kids through the world of "social issues."  These are impressionable years and I want to make sure that what is being thown at them is appropriate for their maturity level.  So, I have to state that the DoSomething.org website is NOT something I would allow my pre-teen kids to explore without adult supervision, given their age.  The website discusses things like STD's and teen pregnancy and reproductive rights, as well as other issues that I'm not ready for my 8 year old to be exposed to yet.  But that's just me.

Having said that, there are also inummerable ideas on the website that encourage kids to get involved in helping around their community, an idea which I really support.     

Other than that, I loved the products we received!  Big Brother immediatley snagged the Omnitech portable MP3 player speaker and is thrilled with his ability to rock out in his room without earphones.

Little Man was fast on the draw and took the cool Soccer Buddy calculator.  

The new school supplies and fun little items made our 2nd week of going back to school a little more bearable.  Both boys left the house this morning excited to share their new notebooks and cool gadgets with their friends.

Staples has some great Back-to-School specials on all of these products and more, so be sure to check out their website for more fun items to fill your students' backpacks this year!

And to help fill your backpacks?  Staples and MomSelect are giving one of my lucky readers a $25 Staples gift card to help with your Back-to-School shopping!   Just visit Staples' Back to School website, then come back here and leave a comment telling me which item you might purchase with your gift card.  Contest is gonna be a quickie, it will end on Sunday, August 15th, 2010 @ 12 Midnight PST.  Open to US Residents only.  

And don't forget, you can earn extra entries by: 

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  Becoming a Follower of I Am Boymom
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  Blogging about it on Your blog! 

Good luck with the contest and with your Back-to-School experiences!!           

**DISCLOSURE: I did not receive monetary compensation for this post.  Staples provided me with various products to try in order to facilitate this review.**

What Do You Want to be When You Grow Up?

Little Man begs on a daily basis for deviled eggs.  He thinks they are the bomb.  When I make them he asks how many he can have.  We made some together this weekend, just so he could help.  Because Little Man wants to be a chef someday.  While he looks for dinosaur bones and ancient civilizations and buried treasure.  He can't decide between archeology or paleontolgy.  But he figures he might as well eat good while he explores the universe.  Not a bad plan, actually.  He may need to rethink his food of choice though...I'm not sure how well deviled eggs will travel.